My World

Monday, February 05, 2007

Crabs in a bucket

I have a question. It's one I don't think anyone really has the answer to, but one that I will ask nonetheless...why are we as a people such crabs in the bucket? I mean, I'd really like to know the answer to that because I just don't get it.I guess I should back up. I'll admit it, I'm a little niave, maybe even a little too nice. And as my friends always tell me, just a little too open about my business. I think it's because I like to beleive that people are generally good, but the further I climb up this literary ladder, I'm just not sure if that's the case anymore. And that's a sad testament.You'd think with success would come people - especially our people - who are happy for you, happy to see a sistah living her dreams. But again, if anything, I'm finding more and more, dare I say it - haters. That's such a strong word because it makes it seem like I have something someone should be jealous of, but I don't. I'm just a sistah who went after, and is achieving her dream. To me, that should warrant respect, not hate. But on the contrary, take an email (addressed to someone else) that I received last week (who I have to even question the sender's motive in forwarding it to me). I've never done anything to the person who wrote the email, but she proceeded to talk about how I think I'm all that because my books are doing well. (Are we back in the 8th grade??) That's asinine. I'm the same down-home girl from Smackover, Arkansas that I was when I was pushing my self published books on the corner. I didn't change. People changed toward me.Or take the fellow author who asked why I was always helping "wanna-be" authors, or promoting other authors "for free." That too, is crazy. I've been so blessed because I live my life trying to be a blessing to others. My friends tell me, forget those people who spew their negativity. I wish I didn't care. I wish it didn't bother me. But it's my nature to care and wish that we as a people could get away from that crab mentality and figure out that when one of us succeeds, we all do. Maybe it's a pipe dream. But hey I'm a writer, I'm supposed to dream.

Saturday, July 29, 2006

A blogger who doesnt blog

Okay, there aren't a whole lot of things I can't embrace. Blogging is one of them. I cant figure this stuff out. Maybe it's because I'm too busy, maybe its because my four year old is crying and pulling on my leg because my six year old won't let her talk to her. Maybe its because I have two deadlines in two weeks and I'm only half finished (I hope my editor isnt reading this), or maybe it's because the dog just pooped on my freshly cleaned carpet, or the fact that I finally broke down and washed my car, only to have a monsoon hit. Whatever the case, this blogging stuff is for the birds. Maybe I'll get with my friends Nina Foxx or Isiah Carey (the blog king and queen) to figure this all out....if only I could find the time.

Thursday, March 30, 2006

My World

My World
Okay, I don't need anyone else to tell me that a blogger is supposed to blog more than once every six months. I get it, alright already.

I'm just figured out how to check email, getting this blogging thing down will take me a minute. But I'm working on it (are you happy, Trina?)

Seriously, I've been so busy trying to meet my numerous deadlines that I hadnt taken time to figure out how to update my blog. So what better topic to talk about briefly but time. How often have you not gotten something done because you claim you don't have time? Do you realize that as long as you talk about how you can't find time to do something, you'll never find time to do it. I'm guilty of it, too (hence the blog that hasnt been updated since December). But where you won't find me slacking is in living my passions.

Many of you know I work at the TV station, I also do freelance and consulting work for a couple of newspapers in Houston. I have two children (does my husband count-if so, make that three). I'm active in my sorority and of course, I write books, lots of them. But you won't find me complaining about time. That's because every minute spent griping about how much time I don't have, is one more minute I could've been doing something to further my passion. So, stop making excuses -- especially when it comes to time. If you have a passion, be it writing, opening a business, whatever, stop talking about reasons you can't do it and just do it.

Just my two cents....until the next time...and it wont be four months.

Monday, December 12, 2005

Update on what I'm doing...

Okay, I’ll admit it. I’m a bad girl. I hadn’t updated this page in almost a year, but I have a good excuse, really I do. I have been working around the clock churning out books. I guess I’ll start with my latest endeavor. My first non-fiction book hit the stands this week. It’s called Help! I’ve Turned into My Mother. I wrote this book because, well, I’ve turned into my mother. And the more I talked to my girlfriends, I found, I’m not alone. I hope you’ll enjoy my stories, all the contributing writers (much love to that talented bunch) and the sound professional advice. My mom isn’t too thrilled with the book because she’s a very private person and doesn’t like me “telling the whole world our business!”

Next up, is my third novel, I Know I’ve Been Changed. I had so much fun with that one because I got to draw on all my crazy relatives (What? Don’t act like you don’t have none.) That book will be out Feb. 1, but of course, you can always pre-order your copy today! Saying I’m blessed is an understatement. In addition to those two books, I have an anthology coming out in July 2006 called Have a Little Faith, written with Jacqueline Thomas, Sandra Kitt and J.D. Mason. You’ll definitely want to check that out as well. I have also signed on to do an inspirational teen series and I am so loving that because there is such a need for uplifting fiction for our young people.

And I’m still promoting Let the Church Say Amen, which by the way, hit the #1 spot on the Essence Magazine Bestseller’s list and spent many months on the Black Issues Book Review Bestsellers list. I’ve been traveling the country, participating in festivals and conferences and meeting with bookclubs, so it’s been one busy year.

By the way, you may have noticed a cover change on my debut novel, My Brother’s Keeper. It’s the same book, just a different cover and it still remains one of my favorites.

Writing reality…

Let me send a message to the holy rollers – those of you who send me the emails blasting me because I have MILD profanity in my books and my characters are flawed. Number one, I prefer to be called an Inspirational writer for that very reason (actually it’s inspirational, with an edgeJ). Number two, I write reality and in the real world some Christians do say bad words, do bad things and (gasp) have sex. Even more so, in the world I live in, everybody ain’t a Christian. My current writing reflects all of that. You won’t get any down and dirty, knockin’ over furniture sex, graphic violence and excessive profanity, but you will see everyday people struggling in their walks with God and using faith to see them through. I write stories of faith. And let’s just put it this way, I don’t write anything I wouldn’t want my mother to read. (Well, except for I Know I’ve Been Changed, which she didn’t care for, because again – well, let’s just say she saw some of our people in the pages).

What I'm writing now...

You asked for it, now you’ve got it! A sequel to Let the Church Say Amen. In Everybody Say Amen, Rachel is back and married to Lester, who takes over as pastor of Zion Hill. So you know what that means, Rachel is now the First Lady. And if you know like I know, Rachel is no ordinary First Lady. This book will be a blast! I’m also working on the teen books, three of them are scheduled for release in the next year and a half.

Bringing out the writer in you...

I have to keep this part in here about how I am a testament to why you should not let anyone but you determine your destiny. I see it so much, writers waiting on that big break, the call from a major publisher or agent. When I first completed My Brother's Keeper, I shopped it around-and got the standard rejections. So I stepped out on faith and self-published. I armed myself with the necessary tools (research, money, patience and perseverance) and I set out to accomplish my dreams and experienced insurmountable success, which later led to a book deal. Had I sat and waited for someone to validate my work, I might still be waiting. I always tell people when I'm out speaking, when one door closes, find another way in. If you knew a $230 million dollar lottery ticket was sitting inside an office building, and could be yours if you could just get to it, but the front door was locked solid, I'd be willing to bet you'd find a way in. If you had to dig a tunnel, saw a hole in the roof and drop in, you'd get to that ticket. Take that same approach to realizing your dreams, whether it's writing or anything else. Find some way, any way, to make your dreams come true. If I can be of any assistance on your publishing journey, feel free to drop me an email. And if you're stuck in a writer's rut, then my advice to you would be to just write. Even if it doesn't make sense, even if you're not feeling it, get it out. You can always go back and clean it up later. But by all means, just do it.

Thank you all for your support...and please pass the word, not the book!

Blessings,

ReShonda